https://delta.chat/en/help#e2ee
I gave it another try last week
- the onboarding automatically creates a username/password on the server you selected, more details here: https://chaos.social/@delta/115479392746850836
- E2EE using openpgp
- fast and light on resources
It’s still in development, it’s not a fully fledged replacement for Matrix yet, but I could see it replace Signal at some point.
For a list of servers: https://chatmail.at/relays
Indeed I only offered up my experience since you mentioned self-hosting and family.