Some middle-aged guy on the Internet. Seen a lot of it, occasionally regurgitating it, trying to be amusing and informative.

Lurked Digg until v4. Commented on Reddit (same username) until it went full Musk.

Was on kbin.social (dying/dead) and kbin.run (mysteriously vanished). Now here on fedia.io.

Really hoping he hasn’t brought the jinx with him.

Other Adjectives: Neurodivergent; Nerd; Broken; British; Ally; Leftish

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Cake day: August 13th, 2024

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  • There are certain things that I have to avoid thinking about in order that I don’t enter a depressive phase or become suicidal. You are asking me to think about those things.

    You are asking a hungry man with no legs to walk a thousand miles for food. “Grow new legs!” you say. “Find a way!”

    You are asking me to beat my head repeatedly into a wall until I get through it. I have literally and figuratively bounced my head off a wall. Both made me not want to do that again.

    Maybe you’ve got yourself out of this exact situation. Good for you. I am glad you managed it.

    I am not you.



  • all I can advise is make sure you get that shit sorted out or cleaned out before you pass away

    I know you mean well, and I hate to say it, but this is roughly equivalent to telling a depressed person to “cheer up”.

    I’m well aware of the burden this would leave someone having to clear out my house, because I’m the one with that same burden right now. This is not the motivation someone in good mental health might think it would be.

    Mental illness does not imply stupidity. I mean, I’m plenty stupid a lot of the time, but the two aren’t connected. And I can see the problem where a lot of hoarders can’t. And yet, if I was capable of fixing the problem, it wouldn’t have existed in the first place.


  • It’s not always about what it might be worth later. It’s often about what it’s worth to the hoarder right now, and how much anguish getting rid of it would cause.

    People will develop attachments to the most bizarre of things. Even a straw and a plastic lid.

    Source: I’m pretty much a hoarder. Thankfully I don’t develop attachments to rubbish and recyclables like the character in this comic, but I have far too many books, clothes, knick-knacks and household items that I can’t let go of. Many were gifts.

    The books are the worst because I feel like they’re tainted by having been in my house. If they ever leave here, the best place for them might be landfill or incineration and that feels like a waste. So here they languish where they might have some use.

    You can’t wash a book.

    I had a clear-out 10 years ago - anything that could be cleaned up went to charity - and still have regrets about some of that. The next one probably isn’t going to happen any time soon.


  • This particular hillside isn’t in a preservation area or even an area that ought to be. It’s literally just lawn grass on a steep slope for the most part. If there were enough people taking the shortcut to cause problematic erosion, a desire path would be the first warning sign, and there isn’t one.

    If the local authority thought it was a problem - the grass is mowed occasionally, so they keep an eye on it - I’m sure they’d put up signs threatening a fine for anyone cheating.

    That said, I will bear what you’ve said in mind.





  • I know a place that has switchback footpaths on the hillside. The gradient and terrain mean that it’s usually possible for anyone of rudimentary fitness to get down by taking a short-cut and heading straight down. Takes less than a minute.

    Coming back up is hell either way. If you try the straight line, you need way more fitness than going down. It’s not a 45° slope, but it feels like one. If you take the switchbacks, it feels like you’re making no progress for far too long.

    It might only be two or three minutes of strain, five or six for the switchbacks but it’s a real drag.


  • Well there are plenty of exceptions that might mean certain Gen Xers aren’t in the workforce (pervasive mental illness in my case), but the cut-off was 1980 - 45 long years ago - so we’re all middle-aged now.

    Sure, the oldest end is still boomers, but I don’t think my statement was completely inaccurate.









  • My weakest gums are weak precisely because I floss there more often.

    Those locations happen to be where there’s a natural gap between teeth, they’re the first place food gets stuck and the first place I have to take a toothpick or floss to. Gentle as I am, that still takes a toll on the gum between them.

    There’s also been a feedback loop of food getting stuck there making those gaps wider over time, meaning larger food getting stuck and more flossing. Over the course of a few decades, tiny movements add up.

    The dentists I’ve seen are clueless what to suggest; suggesting I floss less would make their heads explode.