20 somethings think 30+ is forever away.

has majorly spilled over into real life as well. way too many anxious control freaks these days, not enough chill people who are willing to listen and learn.

people.

people don’t like openness and freedom. it’s scary. they prefer to be coddled by walled gardens and curated experiences that make sure they don’t come across anything they find unpleasant or disagreeable.

most people are very happy to be spoonfed bias-confirming garbage their entire life, and re-regurgitating it out again. the open internet is a huge threat to those people.

it’s oblivion in space.

New monitors: Maybe my eyes suck, but my set of two 21-inch LCD monitors from 2005 is still going strong

Your eyes don’t suck. You just want to abuse them for some reason. Modern display tech is way easier on your eyes.

that isn’t how reality works.

it’s actually really not hard if you stop seeing validation from other people and seek it from yourself.

what about a radical lifestyle adjustment.

it’s not medical care. it’s eldercare.

that isn’t how any of this works. You don’t ship people off to other countries like they are cattle. Jesus.

Set goals and meet them. If you need more time or money, then start working towards that and achieve it. Invest in yourself.

Stop making excuses and being miserable. Because all you’ve done to me is whine for three paragraphs about how helpless you are. Time to grow up buttercup, the only person who is ever going to ‘rescue’ you is yourself.

No, I’m saying people are stupid and ignorant and it’s not some big conspiracy. It’s just business.

don’t sell yourself short. you are probably depressed and lazy.

billionares also feel like they are poor and struggling and only that next 10 billion will make them successful.

that doesn’t mean it’s true. it means they are mentally ill.

reality exists outside of our feelings.

and this is often from people who are not ‘lonely’ on the outside, but their many relationships are entirely performative. and they have built up their entire life as one big act.

one thing i notice abotu ‘lonely’ people is they systematically refuse to change anything in their life.

and this is often from people who are not ‘lonely’ on the outside, but their many relationships are entirely performative. and they have built up their entire life as one big act.

My mother has Alzheimer and it’s costing us 15K/mo to care for her. She only has about a year of money left. She is in good physical health but mentally she is a toddler. her care costs are double my take home pay, so if her money runs out before she dies, i am screwed.

Nothing I can do about it. It’s the American healthcare system. Some problems are totally outside of anyone’s person control.

that’s how pretty much all business works though.

as your company grows it’s preferable to have fewer larger providers for services. when you are small you have multiple vendors.

largerly because the vendors that provide extensive services… cater to larger companies, not smaller ones.

because calling it authoritarianism makes it sound big and scary… and make sit sound like a battle of good vs evil for all time.

what you are describing… which is simply the routine processes that have gone on for 100s of years in governments… isn’t big and scary.

people like this need to look up the Dutch East India company.

I was saving for college and aware of the costs from the age of 14. That’s why I got a job at 15.

It was pretty easy to understand. They showed me a piece of paper with all the numbers. Basic mathematics.

The issue is that people ‘follow their passions’ and then later find out there are no liveage wage jobs in those areas, and act outraged and like life is unfair. But… if you need a job after school that pays a certain amount… well you need to plan for that too.

Your friend went into a field were jobs are scare and difficult to get even good times and you often need a masters or better in any science field to get an entry level position. His lack of research is his own fault. Not anyone else’s. Nobody is owed a job inbiology just because they studied it, and most people who get those jobs go to top programs and are top performers.

Your friend needs to get a job in an office, pushing papers, like vast majority of us. Those are the jobs that are available. Take their bio dataset skills, and join a marketing firm, like the rest of us.

Sorry, I just have no empathy for the tons of people who get an edcuation, then throw it all away because they didn’t get the dream job they think they are owed who actively refuse to apply to jobs that are ‘below’ them. FWIW I have a brother who is in this rut right now. He refuses to get jobs that are ‘below’ him so he has been unemployed for 3 years now. He’s a prideful idiot.

I went to an ivy league school and my first job was pushing papers because it was the first job I could get. And I built up my job skills and my career. I didn’t sit around living at home for months/years whining about how there are ‘no good jobs’. I got to work and started paying off my loans. I have zero empathy for the people who sit around and refuse to work because they feel it is ‘below’ them to work outside of a certain field/industry or income level.

i’m not implying anything dude. there are lots and lots of people in the real world who do stupid crap like that. for real. I have know dozen and dozens of them over the past 20 years.

but you seem to assume all people are fundamentally good by default. they are not. there is a significant percentage of people who you would hire for your orchard, and kill your trees, and then sue you for firing them. why would you want to reward these people?

FWIW I have worked with community non profits much of my adult life. A good 1/3 of the people involved, both providers and clients, are immoral shitheads. I’m not talking analogies here, I’m talking the real world. You have to setup litmus tests, waiting periods, and lots of other mechanisms to prevent those people from getting/access resources, and rooting them out even when they do. a significant part of the job, sadly. One of the reasons many ‘assistance’ programs are so fucking onerous w/ paper work and waiting periods is because so many bad actors seek to exploit them to the detriment of those who actually need the assistance.

and those systems break down when shitty people come in and hoover up all the resources and exploit the generosity of others. and most of those shitty people… don’t need help. they just seek a method to avoid hard work.

because if you fuck yourself over I shouldn’t have to bail you out. your personal choices are not my responsibility. go ahead and party in your 20s and let your debt accrue to 200K. but don’t whine about how unfair your life is when you are living paycheck to paycheck at 40 and have nothing for retirement. you did that to yourself and life is not ‘unfair and cruel’ because you made bad choices.

this is like you getting drunk crashing you car, and demanding someone else pay for the damages, because ‘it’s not your fault’. It is your fault entirely, and nobody else’s. But by a lot of lemmy logic it’s the fault of the alcohol company, the bar owner, and etc. as if they were suppose to prevent you from doing all of that.

personal responsibility exists. college students are not hapless victims of a cruel system. they are making choices and now they are crying that they should not have to face the consequences of the choices. I wanted to go to grad school at my dream school, but it turns out i’d have 60K in debt from going there, so I went to a place where they gave me a scholarship, even if it wasn’t what I ‘truly’ wanted.

But plenty of people make the other choice, and go to schools and get degrees they can’t afford. And further, they do nothing responsible/productive with that degree. I had a friend I stopped interacting with who got a comp sci degree from a top uni, had lots of debt, but now works part time in a bicycle shop for 15/hr and refuses to pay back loans and keeps ranting about how the govt should pay off their debt for them. I stopped interacting with this person once I realized what pathetic joke of a human being they. And they love ranting about how everyone is privledged and should pay more tax and they are so poor and helpless and they have financially abused many people with this routine. They are just a lazy entitled jerk who is throwing away their life because it’s cool be a bicycle hipster and ‘uncool’ to work a computer programming job.

Why in the hell would anyone think this person deserves loan forgiveness? They do not. They should use their degree, get a good job, and pay back their loans themselves.

If this person however, got a degree teaching computer science and was doing something productive to society should they qualify for a partial loan forgiveness, totally.

your mistake is you assume all people are well intention ed an good actors. many are not. many human beings are exploiters, abusers, cheats, and generally shitty people who are seeking to exploit everyone/everything they can for personal gain at the loss of other people. lemmy assumes that all such people are billionaires or something… there are plenty of them who are poor who are like this as well.